pkgs.phonetpm: 0.4.1 -> 0.4.2

Branches, PRs and auto-merge now use the UPDATE_PKGS_TOKEN repo secret
instead of GITHUB_TOKEN, so the normal pull_request ci.yml run (with the
farm build) shows up on each PR and GitHub merges it with a merge commit
once the ruleset is met. The serial verify job (rebase, dispatch ci.yml,
wait, merge) and the final ci dispatch on master are gone: the auto-merge
counts as the token's, so the push to master triggers ci.yml itself.

UPDATE_PKGS_TOKEN: fine-grained PAT (or GitHub App token) for this repo
with Contents: read/write, Pull requests: read/write and Workflows:
read/write (force-pushing an update branch rebased over master commits that
touched .github/workflows is refused without it). The repo needs "Allow
auto-merge" enabled. The workflow fails early if the secret is missing.

Grafana 13 no longer ships the prometheus datasource as a core plugin, so the provisioned VictoriaMetrics datasource was unusable. Switch it and the dashboards to victoriametrics-metrics-datasource.